How to get through Mothers Day?

Thank you everyone for your kind words 🙂

Wishing everyone a Happy Day today.

Just reading all these messages and sending warm hugs to all.

@LadyLola – thinking of you but please, do what YOU feel is right for YOU. The firsts are always the most difficult and I’m sending caring thoughts that inner strength will give you a certain amount of peace. It won’t be easy but hopefully you’ll be able to feel our collective thoughts for you and know the connection you had with your Mum will never die.

@LadyLola I feel your pain. I lost my mother only 3 months ago, she lived next door to me for the past 12 years and I was her primary carer for the past few years. I am not sure how I am going to cope with Mother’s Day either. I know your mother and mine won’t want us crying but to remember the good times. Don’t be hard on yourself.

LadyLola, We all have different beliefs but what I believe very strongly is that we go on from here. When a loved one passes that day is kind of like their Birthday on the other side so to speak. They are fine and they are happy. The only thing that holds them back and makes them sad is our grief because honestly they are 100% fine and they will be there waiting for us when our time comes. For those special days such as their Earthly Birthday, Christmas, Mothers Day and the day of their passing you really dont need to visit a grave because they are not there. I feel its kind of like they are where ever we are. Its not like they can flit all over the World and such for no reason but they are connected to those they love by the love. So as you say you have so much to tell her and talk to her every day….she hears you. Deep inside you know it would break her heart to know that you are battling grief over her. You know her so well that you know exactly how she would feel and exactly what she would say to you. On those days light a candle and put in near a photo of her. Its warm and the flame is alive and will shower her image in a lovely glow. If you are able to do a small gift of kindness in your Mums honour. For instance one year on Mums Birthday I went out to breakfast with a friend and quietly asked the waitress for the bill of an older couple who were also having breakfast. I wanted to do is secretly but the couple become so worried about the bill that the waitress told them I had paid it. They came over and I explained. They were on their way to church so said they would say a prayer for my Mum. I thought that was lovely. Another time I was in the line at the checkout at the supermarket and there was an elderly man before me. I quickly handed the checkout operator some money and asked her to pay it off his bill. She got upset that he didnt thank me. He really didnt understand when she told him I had paid some of his bill. I told her that it didnt matter as I knew I had done it and My Dad knew and thats all that mattered. I wasnt after thanks. My Mum and Dad would have been thrilled with what I did and it also made me feel good.

@ladylola sending strength. We lost my step Dad in August 2023 and then my Nanna in March 2024. My Mum has terribly sad days and that is okay. Please be gentle on yourself and reach out to those around you. 😘🫶🏻

I have spent most of my adult life without a Mum, so my pain is different. Everyone’s is. I focus on the future, now I’m a Mum I look ahead, but still think of my Mum everyday. You are lucky to have your sons and you know your Mum wouldn’t want you to be unhappy.

Thank you for your kind words @Jatz. I am so sorry for your loss and the difficult time you had.

I’m lucky that I have a cousin who also adored my mum and she has sent me a photo of mum’s grave with a beautiful sunflower placed which was mum’s favourite flower.

I hope you know you are very special and treat yourself to something special.

Thank you for your kind words @Okatko, @Jatz,@Misfortune8 I did try to reply but my messages keep on disappearing.

Wishing all the mum’s and all the members of BH a wonderful day.

I still am lucky to have my mum with me and I try not to think about the day where she wont be with me. Hopefully @LadyLola others can share how they get through this day. Every day would be tough and September is still very fresh. Its good that a lot of companies are starting to send out the “no mothers day emails please”.